This wonderful little boy just started pre-school.His race became an issue when the parent filled out his paperwork for school.This child is thought to be caucasion by the outside world because he's very light with blonde hair and blue eye's, but he has some african-american features that other african-americans recognize as being from their race.He also has a caucasion father now who has raised him from the age of 5 months and is thought to be the birth father.I guess what I'm really asking is how do get him to understand this and is it too early to approach this.The parents and friends fear that another child may inadvertantly say something and confuse him.This is a serious question so no haters please.
I need to know how you approach the subject of race with a 4 year old who's Bi-racial.?
Tell him white sucks and that all his problems are whitey's doing.
I need to know how you approach the subject of race with a 4 year old who's Bi-racial.?
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I need to know how you approach the subject of race with a 4 year old who's Bi-racial.?
Just explain that there are different races. Like different kinds of dogs or cars. Different on the outside and same on the inside.
I need to know how you approach the subject of race with a 4 year old who's Bi-racial.?
He's too young for it to be an issue. Unless you're the one with the problem, leave it alone until he ask.
I need to know how you approach the subject of race with a 4 year old who's Bi-racial.?
how did his race become an issue? just do your job and mind your own business.
I need to know how you approach the subject of race with a 4 year old who's Bi-racial.?
why would you approach this subject with a 4 year old
this is 2006 who the hell cares what his or hers ethnicity is
he is a 4 year old child
I need to know how you approach the subject of race with a 4 year old who's Bi-racial.?
yes it is too early to approach just relax like what do preschoolers know or care about race n let the dad explain that to him. If u absolutely have to tell him he is both and got the best of both worlds and that he is unique and special. but id just not worry about it at that age. too young to understand.
I need to know how you approach the subject of race with a 4 year old who's Bi-racial.?
Once you can get them to understand how big the world is you are half way there. They may no able to relate to a globe though. You may also have trouble with how a mummy and daddy make babies.
Probably just leave it as there are many different people all aound. Then emphasise that different is not better or worse, just different.
I need to know how you approach the subject of race with a 4 year old who's Bi-racial.?
It should be addressed at home. Parents should discuss his heritage. Show him pictures of others that are African American with very light, medium %26amp; dark skin. Ecspeically those in his own family.
This way he can see the beauty %26amp; variety that comes with having a mixed heritage.
He certainly shouldn't be made to "pass off" as white or to feel that being African American is something to be ashamed of.
I need to know how you approach the subject of race with a 4 year old who's Bi-racial.?
i wouldnt say anything till somthing ariser then i would let him know that he is a wonderfull child that gets to be blessed whith 2 culters bouth verry rich in heratige and that hes loved by all kinds of difrent peaple and that makes him a verry lucky boy so he should be proud
I need to know how you approach the subject of race with a 4 year old who's Bi-racial.?
My friend has a bi racial child, and she started out by making it normal to be around BOTH kinds of people. He knows there is a difference in his mom and his dad, but he knows that he is still a beautiful person. She made sure he had books and toys and action figures that showed both races, so he didnt ever get "used" to one. His father was a dead beat who took off, so she had to work at it. But I think he has a great understanding of it at the age of six. Also, try contacting a child pyscologist (spelled wrong I am sure) See what advice they could offer too. Good Luck!
I need to know how you approach the subject of race with a 4 year old who's Bi-racial.?
I'd make sure that he knows his racial heritage from the start so he doesn't feel shocked later on. Tell him that he is mostly white or caucasian with a bit of black or African-American thrown in since he is fair skinned.
My daughter received a lot of confusing questions early on because she has never had a father and that did confuse a lot of children because everyone told their kids that children are conceived with a mommy and a daddy.
I need to know how you approach the subject of race with a 4 year old who's Bi-racial.?
I can't even read your Question....lol...cause your avatar is so funnnnyy!!LOL
I need to know how you approach the subject of race with a 4 year old who's Bi-racial.?
You know my daughter is mixed and I never even thought of that you shouldnt worry about it
I need to know how you approach the subject of race with a 4 year old who's Bi-racial.?
I am 1/2 white 1/2 Mexican and my children are Mexican i have never lead them to believe there is any difference between races just people... and i remember when he started a daycare he had a little friend who was African American and he asked her one day if she was Mexican like him... she said no I'm black.. and the mom and i just laughed but we never really paid attention to it and they never really pursued it further and i think if that other child says something to him he won't even understand at his age .... i think race should not be an issue with kids so if he brings it up then i would talk about it but also let him know that everyone is different and he should accept everyone.. I hope this helps a little ... I know it can be a touchy subject good luck
I need to know how you approach the subject of race with a 4 year old who's Bi-racial.?
wow, well that depends on your relationship with the child. If you are close to him you can take him for a walk in a busy park. Go where their are lots of different people and in a delicate way show him the differences in the races. Or you can color people, crayola makes markers in skin tones. When doing this, you can ask him questions, and answer any he has.
If you are a teacher, you can do a nationality day, where all the kids in the class learn about the cultures and background that they come from.
Whatever you do teach him love and tolerance.
I need to know how you approach the subject of race with a 4 year old who's Bi-racial.?
i dont know my niece just started pre-school and were mexican and you know we dont tell kids what race we are we just live life but when she started gooing to school she had class with lil white girls with blond hair no mexicans at all one day she came home and was saying did you know im mexican?? the next day she told my sister she wanted blond hair its such a shame that kids have to tell you what you are instead of just being your friend ...
I need to know how you approach the subject of race with a 4 year old who's Bi-racial.?
I would wait until he is a little older when he is able to understand it better. If someone does say something to him at pre-school, get some pictures of people of different nationalities. Show him how everyone from different places are different in looks and in color. Then just tell him that he a mixture of two of them and that he is very special. I hope this helps.
I need to know how you approach the subject of race with a 4 year old who's Bi-racial.?
My daughter is an IVF baby - I have donated my eggs to another lady who cant make her own eggs and will hopefully end up having and IVF baby from my eggs - we are friends and we will be honest with both our kids about how they came to be and how they are related - my daughter is almost 4 now and I believe it is too soon to tell her anything as she just wouldnt understand.
As for your situation I dont believe race would be an issue at his age - my daughter has asian friends and indian friends etc and all the kids play as if there are no differences at all to kids of this age there is no race difference or colour difference thats just their friends and there is nothing more to it.
When he does ask any questions - talk to him then - Im more than sure that there would be books about how to talk to him about it - I just did a search on the subject and I just found a persons experinece with what you are talking about - this persons child is half asian half caucasian and her son is 4 and is starting to notice the differences in black and white people so it may be something you would find interesting to read (the link is below) HTH and good luck with it!
I need to know how you approach the subject of race with a 4 year old who's Bi-racial.?
This is not your place to discuss with the children, it is the parent's place. However, if something should come up (which I can't imagine, because children accept children and haven't learned to hate because of something stupid) then you explain that all kids are different. Have children around the world and show the different types of races and nationalities.
I need to know how you approach the subject of race with a 4 year old who's Bi-racial.?
His race should not be an issue, sounds like it is only to you.
1. He is too young.
2. If you don't make a big deal out of it, he won't either
3. If he asks, then explain about race, don't make it as if there is something wrong about it. Don't make it about race, but more about there are just different type of people.
I need to know how you approach the subject of race with a 4 year old who's Bi-racial.?
IMO it might be a little early to approach him. It might be better to wait for him to ask. He is so young and impressionable and probably completely unprejudiced at this point in time; the last thing you want is for him to go to school thinking he is 'different' for some reason.
Things aren't like they were, say, 20 years ago. While of course there are some geographical areas where prejudice is more prevalent, diversity has gained a lot of ground.
I think this diversity is good for the world. I wish the best for your little friend!
I need to know how you approach the subject of race with a 4 year old who's Bi-racial.?
With him being only four years old, I think it may be a little too early to really bring it up. But I understand the concern about another child bringing it up and it causing issues with him. As an RN, I would bring it up now lightly, tell him that his mommy and his daddy are different, that he is special. Children really don't see colors - we teach them stigmas - society teaches them. And unfortunately that you cannot control. But if it becomes an issue with him in a negative way, ie: a bully making fun of him, etc., make it a positive thing, and it really is best to make it a positive thing before it has the chance to become negative. Tell him about how far we have come since the 1960's, what things used to be like, segregation, in the best way you can where he can understand. At age 4, he may really not be interested though - I know my daughter would interrupt and say something along the lines of "Can I play now???".... But never make it a negative thing. Tell him how special it is that two people from two races could make something so special. If you don't make it a positive issue before negativity arises, it will give him a stigma - and you want to avoid that. Build him up, make him proud. Tell him that those that are mean or say mean things, just don't understand and aren't good people, but don't let him retaliate, teach him to alert the adults. If he reacts, that's what they want, and then he's the victim forever, because they will always want that reaction. At age 4, he will be able to understand good and bad people, just don't let him treat either a different way, he'll be the bigger better person that way. And that's what we all want of our children. Best of luck to you!
I need to know how you approach the subject of race with a 4 year old who's Bi-racial.?
I think that making the most of all the cultures involved and being positive about them all, no matter what anybody else thinks. There are good chilren's story books about bi-racial families. I try to appreciate all the good things about each color and culture, instead of trying to be 'color blind'. I say,, Oh, isn't that color beautiful? Aren' t his/her eyes beautiful? Let's try some soul food today, Caribbean food, Mexican food, Chinese food.. it is alll good! I taught my children to look at a person's heart instead of sking color in choosing friends. Choose a good school carefully, one that will respect your child and teach him/ner well enough to speak good English and to be prepared for college. Some poeple will try to force you to 'go Black', or 'pass for White', or call him/her 'zebra',,, and it will be hard.. But the friends and social circle that you can have, of wonderful people who are peaceful and intelligent poeple,, are well worth sacrificing a few bigots from your lives.
I believe that 'honesty is the best policy', but that Truth with love is important. Don't be ashamed of who he is or the family situation. If a good man is fathering him,, that is wonderful. One of the things that mixed race people have to develop is a thick skin,, and a lot of Black people do understand the situation. If you are not ashamed of them,,, they make great friends. If you are ashamed of them,, then you can have your racist White associates that you can't quite be yourself with.
I need to know how you approach the subject of race with a 4 year old who's Bi-racial.?
When you look at a person can you necessairly tell whether or not they are Norwegian, Dutch, Sweedish or English? No, but they may carry some of the charecteristics (my husband is German and BELIEVE ME I SEE THAT IN HIS ATTITUDE!) :) Maybe try leaving race out of it. Some things that may be good analogies though should the situation come up, Puppies, if a mama dog is tan and the papa dog is a dalmation, you might get a white dog with tan spots, everyone is different but the important thing is that we all have the same blood. YOu know what I mean? We all bleed red. The outside is just a case. I highly doubt a lot of 4 year olds are going to question race. My 3 year old doesn't even notice a difference in skin color. He is all caucasian and never asks me any questions about why his friends have a different color skin and we live in an area that has much diversity.
What I really don't understand is that why did the race become an issue when the parents filled out the paperwork? If it wasn't an issue before that why is it now? I don't get that......
Like I said, I don't think a four year old is going to point at this light skinned boy with blond hair and be like, "Hey you look like you could be black." That just doesn't make ANY sense to me........
I need to know how you approach the subject of race with a 4 year old who's Bi-racial.?
If his parents are raising him white, don't bother. If you're not the parent, why are you worrying about it? It's not your child. I was raised with no mention of race around me until I got to school. When I was in first grade, I was going to play with my friend Otto and asked my friend Ashley to come with me. She said she didn't like Otto. I was surprised and asked why. She said "Because he's black." I couldn't even process her statement because it made no sense. Otto was a nice boy, why did his skin color matter? I asked my parents about it when I got home, and found out that some people just don't like people of other skin colors, and it's called racism. I don't worry about it to this day, and still don't understand why it's more of a factor to some people than attitude and personality. I would just chill out and wait for the child to approach the parents.
I need to know how you approach the subject of race with a 4 year old who's Bi-racial.?
WHY is race an issue ?????? the majority of my class is bi-racial. I have to keep from laughing at times when race (skin color) comes up between the kids. I just let the kids talk away, they usually are respectful about each other and let them try to work it out. I had a very tan white kid last year, the black kids (many bi-racial) kept telling him he was black, he kept insiting NO I'm WHITE! and then there was the light-skinned mixed black girl. Who also claimed she was white (which is what her mom said, so that rules!) all the other kids tried to say she was black. We leave what 'color' the kid is up to the parents. We don't do 'multicultural' usually stereotypical lessons or discussions. Why point out differences if the discussion never comes up? we never discuss race as in Caucasian, Asian, African-American. We just tell kids when the subject comes up that people come in many colors.
I need to know how you approach the subject of race with a 4 year old who's Bi-racial.?
This is a very sticky question. However I do not think that the school should make an issue from his race. That should never be an issue. Children face enough obstacles in life, without having to figure out why or why they are not accepted because of the colour of their skin. I know thats not really answering your question, so I will try to explain a bit more what I am saying.
We agree he is of a mixed race, or at least has enough of the characteristics to be thought as such.
It may be too early to approach this as you have said. Kids can be very cruel, a trait that is learned from those around them who promote this awful trait.
If I were you, although it may be hard to wait, wait I would do until someone said something to this young boy. Theres no need in trying to explain things he doesnt have a question for until he is ready to learn the answer.
When this does happen I would suggest in calling a family meeting with whom has been raising him and or his legal guardian or parent. This way with his parents permission and consent, you will be able to try to explain things to him. You would have his parents there to help and maybe the two or three of you would be able to explain things to him in such a way that a child of his age would understand, without the answer being more than he can understand.
If you would like to speak with me further and at length my email is dayna_addison@yahoo.com
I need to know how you approach the subject of race with a 4 year old who's Bi-racial.?
I myself wouldn't even discuss it or worry about it unless it becomes an issue. Most kids that are that young don't even notice skin color or care about it.
I need to know how you approach the subject of race with a 4 year old who's Bi-racial.?
I don't think he is too young to talk to him about this. My mother is full-blooded Native American and my father is mostly caucasian with like an 1/8th Native American. Since I am over half Native American I put that on my documents, but I accept that I am not full-blooded and looking at me you would swear that I am just a "white girl". But I understand my heritage and I know where I come from. Who cares what other people think. There is so much hate in the world and I personally think that it stems from people's hate of themselves and they take it out and anyone and everyone around them. Tell your God-son what his heritage is. Explain to him that people don't always accept everyone for them but teach him to accept. If we teach our children to love people maybe we can one eliminate all the hate.
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